As you and your children are settling into the routine of the new school year, you might begin to experience some frustrations. Deadlines need to be met academically and recreationally, and adjustments in visitation schedules necessitate increased communications between exes.
Here are some tips to help you and your family maximize your joy and harmony in this school year.
- Assess each child’s academic ability with sensitivity. While it is nice to have children who are great students, it is more important to encourage your children to do their best and be proud of the work produced. It is in the children’s best interest to get the same message from the biological parents, as well as from the stepparents. The consistency of the message will make clear the expectations adults have of their children’s behavior.
- If visitation schedules were different over the summer than during the school year, allow for a couple of weeks of emotional transition time. Gradually reintroduce your child to your home rules, expectations, and routines.
- Custodial parents, please, do not overschedule your children with extra-curricular activities that might infringe on the their time with the other parent. Your children need to be proactively parented by both parents.
- Remember to continue to act on what’s in the best interest of your children.
If you are still not sure how to go about it, please consult with a therapist, or you may contact me in whatever way is most comfortable for you.